And then there was an email that was sent out or email stating that they couldn't
make Friday and then I replied saying use the calendar and schedule a new
time and I would expect an update and I wasn't aware of a new meeting.
No there wasn't a new meeting it was the one she scheduled and I said neither
party has agreed to something before I'm going to hold both meeting I I sent all
of that I'm going to honor both meetings I honor that one I'm honoring this one
and I will inform why didn't we have one meeting and I'm into what I said in
the emails I will inform of how the meetings go because you guys both agree
what do you mean we don't agree so you're making a presumptuous statement there
is an email sent out the night before that said they can't make Friday I
replied and said it's too short of a notice but use the calendar and set it
time yeah so that's where it was left off with me until you told me that the
meeting occurred and that you're going to honor both meetings my question is
why wasn't I pulled into that meeting because there's a presumption of non
agreement but being accused of something and being something are two
different things so why wasn't I included in the meeting notice allowed to be
present when my child was present so because the meeting was scheduled and you
was not aware of the meeting rescheduling I did not get a meeting in
I was a reschedule she scheduled a different meeting there was no reschedule
correct she scheduled a meeting so my meeting went out to everybody I'm asking
why her meeting did not go out to everybody I don't have a meeting invite for
her scheduled meeting okay and I'm just curious what the policies are the
procedures going for what to expect you know what that one I will say because
you said I can't make it I didn't send it I think I said I can't make it I
said it was disingenuous it was too short of a notice that it's difficult to
make because I am five hours away I do run my own companies and to somebody
canceling a meeting an hour before and trying to schedule it later that day is
a challenge I just need to know a time to be given an opportunity to move my
meetings around but I wasn't given that opportunity so my question is are we
going to do this is this is what I should expect for the rest of the year if
you guys agreed us a meeting date maybe I should say but you had a calendar that's
the thing is I used your calendar link I found a time that was available on your
calendar I proposed a time the conflict is there was an email that did not use
your calendar I replied back and said use the calendar so if the calendar would
have been used I should have been notified of that meeting do you see what I'm
getting at I do so there this is a high conflict but the conflict is on one
side I'm excluded from a lot of things and I find out in the 11th hour about
activities and then I'm supposed to be making decisions and if this does in
fact continue escalating like it has the last four years of being 30 plus
absences and it goes to truancy as a parent I'm held responsible but yet I don't
have any input as a parent you see where I'm in my position if this continues
escalating I will be held accountable for something that I have no ability to
influence or input because I'm treated as an afterthought there's a lot of
presumptions of my position but the position is not coming from me I followed
your instructions a meeting went out and she decided to come up there in
person and then you guys called asley and you guys have my number and you
could have easily called me and just given me an opportunity but I wasn't
given an opportunity yeah she replied to all and said asley are not available
7.30 on Friday we can meet at 3.30 tomorrow Thursday or Friday when I didn't
hear back within 24 hours I it was almost 2023 or we can be specific but she
saw my reply to her it's correct and we're meeting yes all of those so she
proposed times over a three day period and I said just use the calendar a last
minute change is disingenuous but use the calendar yeah she didn't use the
calendar and since she came up in person you guys had an ad hot meeting or
might be a verbally coordinated meeting and then you guys chose to call the
child no there's the meeting is sent out it said I have a meeting at 3.30 on
Wednesday and I was I included on that she she sent it to you to all of us no
your calendar the same invitation that I got for this zoom meeting no no she said
that okay my ex said something about it time I saw that in a proposed time the
official meeting is with the school on your calendar as I said and I have two
reservations and two different times I'm sending you guys and you guys can
choose which times and I will add you both and I will add you both okay that's all
I'm asking is I was not included in a meeting invite for yesterday or Wednesday
whatever the meeting happened make people show up to both so I will that's okay
yeah I'm going to send it to both because what you're saying is the biggest
problem here is I was not given the opportunity to attend correct I assumed you
knew when she said Wednesday at 3.30 and when I said you both have made
different times and that is an assumption and I will just add you both on to both
of your calendar invites yeah I all meetings with my child I would like at least
an opportunity to participate especially something like this it has been an
ongoing issue in a high conflict situation where I'm always put in a
position to find out after the fact and this and just to share with you this is
what happens is there's always last minutes which creates frustration is any
natural human response to be is when your child is having issues but you're not
included my reaction is a natural reaction of frustration but if she's over
there saying look he's doing this see he's frustrated he's angry he's upset
well of course I am because I'm being excluded I'm watching my child go from
straight A's and gifted and talented to struggling I'm it's September and we're
getting a notice for a committee hearing in September you see do you see where
my issues are yeah and the fact that she's claiming to be at a university how do
you go how do you plan airline tickets fly to another state do a tour of a
campus and your school doesn't know the father doesn't know nobody knows you see
where these issues come in my kids being taken out of state and tour of
campuses and I don't know she didn't coordinate with the school if she would
coordinate with school coordinator I would have been given a heads up but I'm
being excluded until after the fact and then I have to clean up the mess and I
have to have these contentious conversations with you which puts me in a bad
connotation with you but I'm expressing my frustration that I'm finding out
after the fact all the time and it just coincidentally this particular
university is 15 minutes from my son's house and my son's youngest child
turned a year old that same weekend so did she go to a campus tour or did they
just go to a birthday party to celebrate our grandchild's first birthday
because all the tours at that campus I've called there's no official record
there's an email communication but all their tours are done on Saturdays not
Fridays so I'm being left in the dark I'm not given an opportunity to
participate until after the fact and it puts me in a contentious situation with
school administration and I'm gonna say like I've said in the years past if you
guys just communicate and keep an open line let me sort out my conflict
issues with my ex but if you guys run interference and you try to parent us by
separating the children and having two different conversations you're in
fact putting yourself in the middle and I'm asking you not to do that I'm
asking you guys to follow the rules and just schedule a meeting use the
official communication and it just if there's conflict let it come out let
us deal with it because I haven't I have not had a meaningful conversation
since April 20th with my child she stopped by for a couple of hours I was
denied access I have not seen my kid and I drive up to Tyler Texas every
other Friday I sit there I wait for an hour I call the police they come they
take a police report we have 22 cases and 93 days of denied access to my
child and this was my baby girl this was my daddy's girl and through parental
alienation and isolation all this stuff I'm now the monster in her life and now
what she's doing is doing the exact same techniques and using triangulation in
the school system by creating these scenarios where I'm normally going to be
frustrated but I have to compose myself to present this logically so that you
don't just see an angry dad but I'm frustrated yeah I have the
custody of all my kids and all of them let my 23-year-old make in 180
thousand dollars all my kids do very well except for this one and this one's
academics plummeted in mother's presence she's isolated from her siblings
she's isolated from her dad she's isolated from every part of my family and
she's been dropping down now she sees the therapist on a weekly basis and the
therapist can tell if you read all the letters but because of her age and because
of all this stuff there is no remedy so I'm asking you guys if you schedule
meetings include a full distribution if anything goes out keep it official the
paperwork fill it out in full because when you guys hand write a six total but
I don't see unexcused or excused I can't do anything with that yeah so I'm
asking you guys you have forms follow the forms to the letter that's all I'm
asking for used to follow the rules follow the processes fill out the forms
that what I saw was a an attendance committee letter that Amber signed I I don't
know who signature was because I didn't recognize the signature but an
administrator signed it the child didn't sign it there was a little scribbled
note that the child participated by the phone but there's no listing of
unexcused and excused absences so why that was a legitimate question why wasn't
the form filled out I thought you might go in so yeah because we were still
figuring out the college one so I didn't want to write it wrong okay well if I
would like to sign it I'd like to be in docu sign I want the kid signature on it
so that I know the kid was actually present and that the kid is aware of this
because she is turning 18 on August 19th I swear everything is going to change
because we shift from family court to chapter 4200 Texas law and I've already
got the lawyers lined up I've got everybody lined up and we just moved to
Smith County so I get to subpoena anybody and everybody within 150 mile
radius that has been involved with my child for the last four years because
the statute limitations for chapter 42 is four years so all this stuff that I
have to deal with over the last four years is all gonna come to a head after my
child terms 18 and now it's between me and my ex because slander and parental
alienation and pushing me out of my child's life like why can't she be there
at 730 school starts in 10 minutes I can't answer anything I know but you
understand what I'm saying why highly suspicious here's yeah here's what I
will say at the end I will include both at all times I assumed you knew and that
was the miss that was the big mistake I was figuring out the other one to be
updated which is reasonable I will include both okay how many I'm gonna express
it again I've heard this conversation that I will be included every year every
semester this is the first semester of the fourth year at your school I've
heard this conversation and what happens is I look up and we're going to a
currency or I get e-mails with a currency officer and I had no clue because I'm
still I do I hear what you're saying okay thank you that's all I want to know
is this is what we can this is what I can do and then you go miss green you did
not include me on this one thing and you promised you would this is a problem
so let's deal with that when I I'm just I'm sharing with you the source of my
frustration for me this is four years this isn't just one meeting this is four
years of continuous and what's happening is I'm being portrayed as I refuse to
sign I refused to sign from very explicit reasons and I made it very clear and
I have it in writing why I didn't sign it because I wanted one entry to be put
on that form because the form was incomplete and I said I was not going to
sign it just like I'm not going to sign this until you put the number of
unexcusing excuse so I'm not going to sign a form that's incomplete because you
guys can come in after the fact and make changes so I want a form that's
complete before I sign in that's just my legal protection yes I heard that I
did and I'll have a corrected now I heard that I heard the amount I know but
your presumption coming into this was last year we do this and I refused to
sign well I'm trying to share with you I didn't refuse to sign you guys
refused to fill out the form completely and therefore I didn't sign it I was
not the blocker yeah and and that is definitely how I could see how it sounded
well I have it all in writing so I mean yeah I know okay I know yeah but yeah I
would like everybody's signature on this I would like it completely filled out
more than happy I absences are an ongoing issue with this child I can share with
you that when we were married and living together and we're going to our
separation this exact same thing happened to our oldest daughter and so it to me
I've had five kids this is my youngest of five kids I've got 26 years of
experience with this across five children so I'm coming from a position of
knowledge expectations things like that and I'm just trying to convey if we all
follow the processes to the letter the way the laws the way the forms the way
everything was created is designed to protect children and we kind of muddy
over things kids fall through the cracks that's all I'm asking just fill out
the forms completely yeah I got to include and fill out the forms perfect and
from now on if there are any meetings make sure that I'm on the distribution if
I can't make it I will let you know and I will let you know my position if I
want you to reschedule or you know and they and then you guys can make that
decision based on actual knowledge and no assumptions I'm letting you know
and if I get if it's a if it's an important enough meeting I literally have
driven all the way to Tyler Texas to sit in the meeting and turn around and
come back to Austin Texas I've always done that I've had times where you guys
are short on volunteers at the dances and I drove all the way up there
Shaplon to dance and turn around and drove all the way back my kids are
important you come up on Fridays so is that not a possible regular like meeting
opportunity time is it in the afternoon is it when schools so it used to be I
scheduled everything and I tried to do doctor appointments but easily right now
is somehow going through nutritional issues she went from the 20th percentile
weight now she's down below the first that they can't actually put zero so she's
in the first percentile of weight she's on four different medications nobody
else in our family sick we're all I'm a little guy but all of our kids have been
the 20th percentile since living in Tyler she's lost weight she's pasty she's
seeing a therapist on a weekly basis her nutrition is shot I went and got a
blood test her SHBGs are off the charts her I forgot what it's called
cholesterol levels are like an old man I mean she is sickly as hell she's on
four different medications and I used to schedule the doctor appointments on
Fridays and I would pick her up Friday from school well once I was doing the
doctor stuff and intervening and getting her off the medications and getting
her healthier suddenly I refused and she started making the appointments on
Thursdays or Wednesdays because it's more difficult for me to take off in the
middle of the week and I was trying to make all of the appointments on Friday so
my life has been constantly magically they can't meet on Fridays why well she
can't deny the access if she knows I'm in town she can play stupid in a
court of law which is what she's always done so yes Fridays I will come up I
I will if you guys give me more than a 24-hour notice I will come in person that
is how important this is to me and the reason why I scheduled for 730 on Friday
was that was the last window of a two-week heads up and I wasn't able to see my
daughter last Friday which happened to be my weekend but I gave him proper
notice getting all this stuff I have to trade weekends my father got put in a
memory care facility and I had to blow out and a car engine so I was stuck up
in Oklahoma and I asked to trade weekends and she was very ammo she's like oh
yeah that's great because it looks good in writing to say oh yeah we'll
trade weekends and I said this coming weekend which happened to be for this
meeting I was trying to coordinate everything so that she couldn't deny me
access and then suddenly she can't make Friday so there's a lot of games going
on that I have to deal with and I have to be very surgical about it but the
good news for me is chapter 42 takes over and all this stuff can go in court
of law and there's no recourse in family court it's civil court between two
individuals so I'm asking you guys to just follow your processes a lot of
forms will be good I hit you I love you guys I really enjoyed I don't like the
fact that I haven't been able to volunteer the last year but it's been very
uncomfortable up there for whatever reason but I used to come up there for all
the dances first two years Mr. Chong Mr. Use class that came up there I brought
my rocket stuff up there I'm an aerospace engineer I used to come up and
volunteer to classes I'm still friends with a lot of students that have since
graduated they will call me and ask me for advice because that was a type of
impression I made on your students but now I can't even attend a meeting with
my child present and it's heartbreaking I got five kids and this is the one
child that none of the other siblings is like I talked to my son yesterday
it was as time he tied to your sister it's been over a year she's being
isolated from her family and we all know what that causes you guys you guys
take training about how to recognize emotional abuse goes through that list I
know it's on the t.a.gov website goes through that list there's like I think
there's nine or 13 of them I think there's 13 and nine of amazingly exhibits
she's exhibited every year something there but she has a rest of her life and I'm
doing everything I can to protect her when she turned 18 again October 19th
it cannot get her face on over yeah yeah and my fear is that as soon as she
turns 18 Amber's gonna convince her to completely lock me out and as an adult
I will be completely isolated from all academic decisions so I haven't
heard that just say you know but I know that you know that I know the therapist
notes the therapist calls me periodically to give me an update as he's made it
very clear than when she turns 18 she wants nothing to do with me but last year
she asked daddy to take a prom dressing in a shop around her during the
prom I was the driver for the prom I took her shopping that's what it was like
in March of just last year and by April she wants nothing to do with me so I
appreciate your time get the form filled out do I mean I can come up there and
sign it if you want to wet signature or you can use docu sign either way even
if he sent me a word document I've got a file that I can use for my signature
and I don't stop it's fine but that'll so it'll be it'll be docu sign okay I just
wait right if it'll be easier just to just grab a sleigh though and then and then
upload it so I'll figure it out on this end I appreciate you just keep me in the
loop and I keep me in the loop as long as you can yeah no well okay I see what
you're saying yep but I'll do those things I appreciate you absolutely bye