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0	8460	And then there was an email that was sent out or email stating that they couldn't
8460	13140	make Friday and then I replied saying use the calendar and schedule a new
13140	18260	time and I would expect an update and I wasn't aware of a new meeting.
18260	22980	No there wasn't a new meeting it was the one she scheduled and I said neither
22980	27300	party has agreed to something before I'm going to hold both meeting I I sent all
27300	31780	of that I'm going to honor both meetings I honor that one I'm honoring this one
31780	36540	and I will inform why didn't we have one meeting and I'm into what I said in
36540	41580	the emails I will inform of how the meetings go because you guys both agree
41580	48460	what do you mean we don't agree so you're making a presumptuous statement there
48460	53460	is an email sent out the night before that said they can't make Friday I
53460	57860	replied and said it's too short of a notice but use the calendar and set it
57860	65260	time yeah so that's where it was left off with me until you told me that the
65260	68740	meeting occurred and that you're going to honor both meetings my question is
68740	72140	why wasn't I pulled into that meeting because there's a presumption of non
72140	77940	agreement but being accused of something and being something are two
77940	84740	different things so why wasn't I included in the meeting notice allowed to be
84740	93180	present when my child was present so because the meeting was scheduled and you
93180	98620	was not aware of the meeting rescheduling I did not get a meeting in
98620	102860	I was a reschedule she scheduled a different meeting there was no reschedule
102860	110660	correct she scheduled a meeting so my meeting went out to everybody I'm asking
110660	115060	why her meeting did not go out to everybody I don't have a meeting invite for
115060	120060	her scheduled meeting okay and I'm just curious what the policies are the
120060	125420	procedures going for what to expect you know what that one I will say because
125420	130260	you said I can't make it I didn't send it I think I said I can't make it I
130260	134340	said it was disingenuous it was too short of a notice that it's difficult to
134340	139100	make because I am five hours away I do run my own companies and to somebody
139100	143100	canceling a meeting an hour before and trying to schedule it later that day is
143100	147700	a challenge I just need to know a time to be given an opportunity to move my
147700	155300	meetings around but I wasn't given that opportunity so my question is are we
155300	161140	going to do this is this is what I should expect for the rest of the year if
161140	168140	you guys agreed us a meeting date maybe I should say but you had a calendar that's
168140	173060	the thing is I used your calendar link I found a time that was available on your
173060	181220	calendar I proposed a time the conflict is there was an email that did not use
181220	189380	your calendar I replied back and said use the calendar so if the calendar would
189380	195060	have been used I should have been notified of that meeting do you see what I'm
195060	200540	getting at I do so there this is a high conflict but the conflict is on one
200540	207860	side I'm excluded from a lot of things and I find out in the 11th hour about
207860	212860	activities and then I'm supposed to be making decisions and if this does in
212860	216420	fact continue escalating like it has the last four years of being 30 plus
216420	222340	absences and it goes to truancy as a parent I'm held responsible but yet I don't
222340	230540	have any input as a parent you see where I'm in my position if this continues
230540	234740	escalating I will be held accountable for something that I have no ability to
234740	239260	influence or input because I'm treated as an afterthought there's a lot of
239260	243220	presumptions of my position but the position is not coming from me I followed
243220	250940	your instructions a meeting went out and she decided to come up there in
250940	254900	person and then you guys called asley and you guys have my number and you
254900	259300	could have easily called me and just given me an opportunity but I wasn't
259300	263420	given an opportunity yeah she replied to all and said asley are not available
263420	268140	7.30 on Friday we can meet at 3.30 tomorrow Thursday or Friday when I didn't
268140	274980	hear back within 24 hours I it was almost 2023 or we can be specific but she
274980	279700	saw my reply to her it's correct and we're meeting yes all of those so she
279700	285100	proposed times over a three day period and I said just use the calendar a last
285100	291140	minute change is disingenuous but use the calendar yeah she didn't use the
291140	295620	calendar and since she came up in person you guys had an ad hot meeting or
295620	298860	might be a verbally coordinated meeting and then you guys chose to call the
298860	305460	child no there's the meeting is sent out it said I have a meeting at 3.30 on
305460	312500	Wednesday and I was I included on that she she sent it to you to all of us no
312500	318900	your calendar the same invitation that I got for this zoom meeting no no she said
318900	325860	that okay my ex said something about it time I saw that in a proposed time the
325860	332500	official meeting is with the school on your calendar as I said and I have two
332500	337660	reservations and two different times I'm sending you guys and you guys can
337660	342980	choose which times and I will add you both and I will add you both okay that's all
342980	348060	I'm asking is I was not included in a meeting invite for yesterday or Wednesday
348060	352540	whatever the meeting happened make people show up to both so I will that's okay
352540	356420	yeah I'm going to send it to both because what you're saying is the biggest
356420	361740	problem here is I was not given the opportunity to attend correct I assumed you
361740	366340	knew when she said Wednesday at 3.30 and when I said you both have made
366340	370540	different times and that is an assumption and I will just add you both on to both
370540	376500	of your calendar invites yeah I all meetings with my child I would like at least
376500	380860	an opportunity to participate especially something like this it has been an
380860	386100	ongoing issue in a high conflict situation where I'm always put in a
386100	391100	position to find out after the fact and this and just to share with you this is
391100	396020	what happens is there's always last minutes which creates frustration is any
396020	400780	natural human response to be is when your child is having issues but you're not
400780	407180	included my reaction is a natural reaction of frustration but if she's over
407180	412700	there saying look he's doing this see he's frustrated he's angry he's upset
412700	417140	well of course I am because I'm being excluded I'm watching my child go from
417140	424540	straight A's and gifted and talented to struggling I'm it's September and we're
424540	431340	getting a notice for a committee hearing in September you see do you see where
431340	439380	my issues are yeah and the fact that she's claiming to be at a university how do
439380	444540	you go how do you plan airline tickets fly to another state do a tour of a
444540	450700	campus and your school doesn't know the father doesn't know nobody knows you see
450700	454780	where these issues come in my kids being taken out of state and tour of
454780	458540	campuses and I don't know she didn't coordinate with the school if she would
458540	461460	coordinate with school coordinator I would have been given a heads up but I'm
461460	466940	being excluded until after the fact and then I have to clean up the mess and I
466940	469940	have to have these contentious conversations with you which puts me in a bad
469940	474900	connotation with you but I'm expressing my frustration that I'm finding out
474900	482980	after the fact all the time and it just coincidentally this particular
482980	488060	university is 15 minutes from my son's house and my son's youngest child
488060	495020	turned a year old that same weekend so did she go to a campus tour or did they
495020	500380	just go to a birthday party to celebrate our grandchild's first birthday
500380	504300	because all the tours at that campus I've called there's no official record
504300	508460	there's an email communication but all their tours are done on Saturdays not
508460	515780	Fridays so I'm being left in the dark I'm not given an opportunity to
515780	519020	participate until after the fact and it puts me in a contentious situation with
519020	524700	school administration and I'm gonna say like I've said in the years past if you
524700	529740	guys just communicate and keep an open line let me sort out my conflict
529740	535220	issues with my ex but if you guys run interference and you try to parent us by
535220	538820	separating the children and having two different conversations you're in
538820	542980	fact putting yourself in the middle and I'm asking you not to do that I'm
542980	547180	asking you guys to follow the rules and just schedule a meeting use the
547180	553460	official communication and it just if there's conflict let it come out let
553460	558620	us deal with it because I haven't I have not had a meaningful conversation
558620	563700	since April 20th with my child she stopped by for a couple of hours I was
563700	568300	denied access I have not seen my kid and I drive up to Tyler Texas every
568300	574140	other Friday I sit there I wait for an hour I call the police they come they
574140	580060	take a police report we have 22 cases and 93 days of denied access to my
580060	587420	child and this was my baby girl this was my daddy's girl and through parental
587420	593580	alienation and isolation all this stuff I'm now the monster in her life and now
593580	597060	what she's doing is doing the exact same techniques and using triangulation in
597060	601860	the school system by creating these scenarios where I'm normally going to be
601860	608020	frustrated but I have to compose myself to present this logically so that you
608020	613940	don't just see an angry dad but I'm frustrated yeah I have the
613940	619220	custody of all my kids and all of them let my 23-year-old make in 180
619220	625260	thousand dollars all my kids do very well except for this one and this one's
625260	630620	academics plummeted in mother's presence she's isolated from her siblings
630620	634900	she's isolated from her dad she's isolated from every part of my family and
634900	638900	she's been dropping down now she sees the therapist on a weekly basis and the
638900	644300	therapist can tell if you read all the letters but because of her age and because
644300	652860	of all this stuff there is no remedy so I'm asking you guys if you schedule
652860	658380	meetings include a full distribution if anything goes out keep it official the
658380	664180	paperwork fill it out in full because when you guys hand write a six total but
664180	669940	I don't see unexcused or excused I can't do anything with that yeah so I'm
669940	674140	asking you guys you have forms follow the forms to the letter that's all I'm
674140	679260	asking for used to follow the rules follow the processes fill out the forms
679260	686100	that what I saw was a an attendance committee letter that Amber signed I I don't
686100	689780	know who signature was because I didn't recognize the signature but an
689780	694260	administrator signed it the child didn't sign it there was a little scribbled
694260	698020	note that the child participated by the phone but there's no listing of
698020	709660	unexcused and excused absences so why that was a legitimate question why wasn't
709660	715580	the form filled out I thought you might go in so yeah because we were still
715580	720780	figuring out the college one so I didn't want to write it wrong okay well if I
720780	724540	would like to sign it I'd like to be in docu sign I want the kid signature on it
724540	728700	so that I know the kid was actually present and that the kid is aware of this
728700	734340	because she is turning 18 on August 19th I swear everything is going to change
734340	741300	because we shift from family court to chapter 4200 Texas law and I've already
741300	745260	got the lawyers lined up I've got everybody lined up and we just moved to
745260	750200	Smith County so I get to subpoena anybody and everybody within 150 mile
750200	753360	radius that has been involved with my child for the last four years because
753360	758380	the statute limitations for chapter 42 is four years so all this stuff that I
758380	762900	have to deal with over the last four years is all gonna come to a head after my
762900	768900	child terms 18 and now it's between me and my ex because slander and parental
768900	774440	alienation and pushing me out of my child's life like why can't she be there
774440	782520	at 730 school starts in 10 minutes I can't answer anything I know but you
782520	787360	understand what I'm saying why highly suspicious here's yeah here's what I
787360	792520	will say at the end I will include both at all times I assumed you knew and that
792520	797560	was the miss that was the big mistake I was figuring out the other one to be
797560	802880	updated which is reasonable I will include both okay how many I'm gonna express
802880	809000	it again I've heard this conversation that I will be included every year every
809000	813200	semester this is the first semester of the fourth year at your school I've
813200	818320	heard this conversation and what happens is I look up and we're going to a
818320	822320	currency or I get e-mails with a currency officer and I had no clue because I'm
822320	825960	still I do I hear what you're saying okay thank you that's all I want to know
825960	830600	is this is what we can this is what I can do and then you go miss green you did
830600	834200	not include me on this one thing and you promised you would this is a problem
834200	839760	so let's deal with that when I I'm just I'm sharing with you the source of my
839760	844400	frustration for me this is four years this isn't just one meeting this is four
844400	849680	years of continuous and what's happening is I'm being portrayed as I refuse to
849680	855400	sign I refused to sign from very explicit reasons and I made it very clear and
855400	859880	I have it in writing why I didn't sign it because I wanted one entry to be put
859880	864360	on that form because the form was incomplete and I said I was not going to
864360	867640	sign it just like I'm not going to sign this until you put the number of
867640	872160	unexcusing excuse so I'm not going to sign a form that's incomplete because you
872160	875720	guys can come in after the fact and make changes so I want a form that's
875720	881280	complete before I sign in that's just my legal protection yes I heard that I
881280	885120	did and I'll have a corrected now I heard that I heard the amount I know but
885120	888480	your presumption coming into this was last year we do this and I refused to
888480	892760	sign well I'm trying to share with you I didn't refuse to sign you guys
892760	897800	refused to fill out the form completely and therefore I didn't sign it I was
897800	904240	not the blocker yeah and and that is definitely how I could see how it sounded
904240	910200	well I have it all in writing so I mean yeah I know okay I know yeah but yeah I
910200	913520	would like everybody's signature on this I would like it completely filled out
913520	921520	more than happy I absences are an ongoing issue with this child I can share with
921520	925120	you that when we were married and living together and we're going to our
925120	931560	separation this exact same thing happened to our oldest daughter and so it to me
931560	937720	I've had five kids this is my youngest of five kids I've got 26 years of
937720	943080	experience with this across five children so I'm coming from a position of
943080	948680	knowledge expectations things like that and I'm just trying to convey if we all
948680	953520	follow the processes to the letter the way the laws the way the forms the way
953520	957600	everything was created is designed to protect children and we kind of muddy
957600	963000	over things kids fall through the cracks that's all I'm asking just fill out
963000	968600	the forms completely yeah I got to include and fill out the forms perfect and
968600	972160	from now on if there are any meetings make sure that I'm on the distribution if
972160	977440	I can't make it I will let you know and I will let you know my position if I
977440	982960	want you to reschedule or you know and they and then you guys can make that
982960	986440	decision based on actual knowledge and no assumptions I'm letting you know
986440	991740	and if I get if it's a if it's an important enough meeting I literally have
991740	994960	driven all the way to Tyler Texas to sit in the meeting and turn around and
994960	1000120	come back to Austin Texas I've always done that I've had times where you guys
1000120	1004360	are short on volunteers at the dances and I drove all the way up there
1004360	1008460	Shaplon to dance and turn around and drove all the way back my kids are
1008460	1014760	important you come up on Fridays so is that not a possible regular like meeting
1014760	1019560	opportunity time is it in the afternoon is it when schools so it used to be I
1019560	1024120	scheduled everything and I tried to do doctor appointments but easily right now
1024120	1028000	is somehow going through nutritional issues she went from the 20th percentile
1028000	1032200	weight now she's down below the first that they can't actually put zero so she's
1032200	1036000	in the first percentile of weight she's on four different medications nobody
1036000	1041040	else in our family sick we're all I'm a little guy but all of our kids have been
1041040	1046640	the 20th percentile since living in Tyler she's lost weight she's pasty she's
1046640	1051280	seeing a therapist on a weekly basis her nutrition is shot I went and got a
1051280	1057360	blood test her SHBGs are off the charts her I forgot what it's called
1057360	1061840	cholesterol levels are like an old man I mean she is sickly as hell she's on
1061840	1064840	four different medications and I used to schedule the doctor appointments on
1064840	1070560	Fridays and I would pick her up Friday from school well once I was doing the
1070560	1074880	doctor stuff and intervening and getting her off the medications and getting
1074880	1080360	her healthier suddenly I refused and she started making the appointments on
1080360	1084600	Thursdays or Wednesdays because it's more difficult for me to take off in the
1084600	1090000	middle of the week and I was trying to make all of the appointments on Friday so
1090000	1097400	my life has been constantly magically they can't meet on Fridays why well she
1097400	1103260	can't deny the access if she knows I'm in town she can play stupid in a
1103260	1110280	court of law which is what she's always done so yes Fridays I will come up I
1110280	1116480	I will if you guys give me more than a 24-hour notice I will come in person that
1116480	1121280	is how important this is to me and the reason why I scheduled for 730 on Friday
1121280	1128400	was that was the last window of a two-week heads up and I wasn't able to see my
1128400	1132120	daughter last Friday which happened to be my weekend but I gave him proper
1132120	1136160	notice getting all this stuff I have to trade weekends my father got put in a
1136160	1140880	memory care facility and I had to blow out and a car engine so I was stuck up
1140880	1146760	in Oklahoma and I asked to trade weekends and she was very ammo she's like oh
1146760	1149960	yeah that's great because it looks good in writing to say oh yeah we'll
1149960	1155760	trade weekends and I said this coming weekend which happened to be for this
1155760	1160080	meeting I was trying to coordinate everything so that she couldn't deny me
1160080	1167440	access and then suddenly she can't make Friday so there's a lot of games going
1167440	1174680	on that I have to deal with and I have to be very surgical about it but the
1174680	1180280	good news for me is chapter 42 takes over and all this stuff can go in court
1180280	1184400	of law and there's no recourse in family court it's civil court between two
1184400	1191600	individuals so I'm asking you guys to just follow your processes a lot of
1191600	1196400	forms will be good I hit you I love you guys I really enjoyed I don't like the
1196400	1199600	fact that I haven't been able to volunteer the last year but it's been very
1199600	1204520	uncomfortable up there for whatever reason but I used to come up there for all
1204520	1208560	the dances first two years Mr. Chong Mr. Use class that came up there I brought
1208560	1212440	my rocket stuff up there I'm an aerospace engineer I used to come up and
1212440	1215600	volunteer to classes I'm still friends with a lot of students that have since
1215600	1219400	graduated they will call me and ask me for advice because that was a type of
1219400	1224600	impression I made on your students but now I can't even attend a meeting with
1224600	1231880	my child present and it's heartbreaking I got five kids and this is the one
1231880	1236320	child that none of the other siblings is like I talked to my son yesterday
1236320	1241880	it was as time he tied to your sister it's been over a year she's being
1241880	1247560	isolated from her family and we all know what that causes you guys you guys
1247560	1253200	take training about how to recognize emotional abuse goes through that list I
1253200	1256480	know it's on the t.a.gov website goes through that list there's like I think
1256480	1260680	there's nine or 13 of them I think there's 13 and nine of amazingly exhibits
1260680	1272720	she's exhibited every year something there but she has a rest of her life and I'm
1272720	1277720	doing everything I can to protect her when she turned 18 again October 19th
1277720	1284280	it cannot get her face on over yeah yeah and my fear is that as soon as she
1284280	1289760	turns 18 Amber's gonna convince her to completely lock me out and as an adult
1289760	1297760	I will be completely isolated from all academic decisions so I haven't
1297760	1300800	heard that just say you know but I know that you know that I know the therapist
1300800	1305360	notes the therapist calls me periodically to give me an update as he's made it
1305360	1315160	very clear than when she turns 18 she wants nothing to do with me but last year
1315160	1319000	she asked daddy to take a prom dressing in a shop around her during the
1319000	1324760	prom I was the driver for the prom I took her shopping that's what it was like
1324760	1334000	in March of just last year and by April she wants nothing to do with me so I
1334000	1338960	appreciate your time get the form filled out do I mean I can come up there and
1338960	1343960	sign it if you want to wet signature or you can use docu sign either way even
1343960	1348160	if he sent me a word document I've got a file that I can use for my signature
1348160	1355880	and I don't stop it's fine but that'll so it'll be it'll be docu sign okay I just
1355880	1360640	wait right if it'll be easier just to just grab a sleigh though and then and then
1360640	1365080	upload it so I'll figure it out on this end I appreciate you just keep me in the
1365080	1370520	loop and I keep me in the loop as long as you can yeah no well okay I see what
1370520	1377360	you're saying yep but I'll do those things I appreciate you absolutely bye