WEBVTT 00:00.000 --> 00:08.460 And then there was an email that was sent out or email stating that they couldn't 00:08.460 --> 00:13.140 make Friday and then I replied saying use the calendar and schedule a new 00:13.140 --> 00:18.260 time and I would expect an update and I wasn't aware of a new meeting. 00:18.260 --> 00:22.980 No there wasn't a new meeting it was the one she scheduled and I said neither 00:22.980 --> 00:27.300 party has agreed to something before I'm going to hold both meeting I I sent all 00:27.300 --> 00:31.780 of that I'm going to honor both meetings I honor that one I'm honoring this one 00:31.780 --> 00:36.540 and I will inform why didn't we have one meeting and I'm into what I said in 00:36.540 --> 00:41.580 the emails I will inform of how the meetings go because you guys both agree 00:41.580 --> 00:48.460 what do you mean we don't agree so you're making a presumptuous statement there 00:48.460 --> 00:53.460 is an email sent out the night before that said they can't make Friday I 00:53.460 --> 00:57.860 replied and said it's too short of a notice but use the calendar and set it 00:57.860 --> 01:05.260 time yeah so that's where it was left off with me until you told me that the 01:05.260 --> 01:08.740 meeting occurred and that you're going to honor both meetings my question is 01:08.740 --> 01:12.140 why wasn't I pulled into that meeting because there's a presumption of non 01:12.140 --> 01:17.940 agreement but being accused of something and being something are two 01:17.940 --> 01:24.740 different things so why wasn't I included in the meeting notice allowed to be 01:24.740 --> 01:33.180 present when my child was present so because the meeting was scheduled and you 01:33.180 --> 01:38.620 was not aware of the meeting rescheduling I did not get a meeting in 01:38.620 --> 01:42.860 I was a reschedule she scheduled a different meeting there was no reschedule 01:42.860 --> 01:50.660 correct she scheduled a meeting so my meeting went out to everybody I'm asking 01:50.660 --> 01:55.060 why her meeting did not go out to everybody I don't have a meeting invite for 01:55.060 --> 02:00.060 her scheduled meeting okay and I'm just curious what the policies are the 02:00.060 --> 02:05.420 procedures going for what to expect you know what that one I will say because 02:05.420 --> 02:10.260 you said I can't make it I didn't send it I think I said I can't make it I 02:10.260 --> 02:14.340 said it was disingenuous it was too short of a notice that it's difficult to 02:14.340 --> 02:19.100 make because I am five hours away I do run my own companies and to somebody 02:19.100 --> 02:23.100 canceling a meeting an hour before and trying to schedule it later that day is 02:23.100 --> 02:27.700 a challenge I just need to know a time to be given an opportunity to move my 02:27.700 --> 02:35.300 meetings around but I wasn't given that opportunity so my question is are we 02:35.300 --> 02:41.140 going to do this is this is what I should expect for the rest of the year if 02:41.140 --> 02:48.140 you guys agreed us a meeting date maybe I should say but you had a calendar that's 02:48.140 --> 02:53.060 the thing is I used your calendar link I found a time that was available on your 02:53.060 --> 03:01.220 calendar I proposed a time the conflict is there was an email that did not use 03:01.220 --> 03:09.380 your calendar I replied back and said use the calendar so if the calendar would 03:09.380 --> 03:15.060 have been used I should have been notified of that meeting do you see what I'm 03:15.060 --> 03:20.540 getting at I do so there this is a high conflict but the conflict is on one 03:20.540 --> 03:27.860 side I'm excluded from a lot of things and I find out in the 11th hour about 03:27.860 --> 03:32.860 activities and then I'm supposed to be making decisions and if this does in 03:32.860 --> 03:36.420 fact continue escalating like it has the last four years of being 30 plus 03:36.420 --> 03:42.340 absences and it goes to truancy as a parent I'm held responsible but yet I don't 03:42.340 --> 03:50.540 have any input as a parent you see where I'm in my position if this continues 03:50.540 --> 03:54.740 escalating I will be held accountable for something that I have no ability to 03:54.740 --> 03:59.260 influence or input because I'm treated as an afterthought there's a lot of 03:59.260 --> 04:03.220 presumptions of my position but the position is not coming from me I followed 04:03.220 --> 04:10.940 your instructions a meeting went out and she decided to come up there in 04:10.940 --> 04:14.900 person and then you guys called asley and you guys have my number and you 04:14.900 --> 04:19.300 could have easily called me and just given me an opportunity but I wasn't 04:19.300 --> 04:23.420 given an opportunity yeah she replied to all and said asley are not available 04:23.420 --> 04:28.140 7.30 on Friday we can meet at 3.30 tomorrow Thursday or Friday when I didn't 04:28.140 --> 04:34.980 hear back within 24 hours I it was almost 2023 or we can be specific but she 04:34.980 --> 04:39.700 saw my reply to her it's correct and we're meeting yes all of those so she 04:39.700 --> 04:45.100 proposed times over a three day period and I said just use the calendar a last 04:45.100 --> 04:51.140 minute change is disingenuous but use the calendar yeah she didn't use the 04:51.140 --> 04:55.620 calendar and since she came up in person you guys had an ad hot meeting or 04:55.620 --> 04:58.860 might be a verbally coordinated meeting and then you guys chose to call the 04:58.860 --> 05:05.460 child no there's the meeting is sent out it said I have a meeting at 3.30 on 05:05.460 --> 05:12.500 Wednesday and I was I included on that she she sent it to you to all of us no 05:12.500 --> 05:18.900 your calendar the same invitation that I got for this zoom meeting no no she said 05:18.900 --> 05:25.860 that okay my ex said something about it time I saw that in a proposed time the 05:25.860 --> 05:32.500 official meeting is with the school on your calendar as I said and I have two 05:32.500 --> 05:37.660 reservations and two different times I'm sending you guys and you guys can 05:37.660 --> 05:42.980 choose which times and I will add you both and I will add you both okay that's all 05:42.980 --> 05:48.060 I'm asking is I was not included in a meeting invite for yesterday or Wednesday 05:48.060 --> 05:52.540 whatever the meeting happened make people show up to both so I will that's okay 05:52.540 --> 05:56.420 yeah I'm going to send it to both because what you're saying is the biggest 05:56.420 --> 06:01.740 problem here is I was not given the opportunity to attend correct I assumed you 06:01.740 --> 06:06.340 knew when she said Wednesday at 3.30 and when I said you both have made 06:06.340 --> 06:10.540 different times and that is an assumption and I will just add you both on to both 06:10.540 --> 06:16.500 of your calendar invites yeah I all meetings with my child I would like at least 06:16.500 --> 06:20.860 an opportunity to participate especially something like this it has been an 06:20.860 --> 06:26.100 ongoing issue in a high conflict situation where I'm always put in a 06:26.100 --> 06:31.100 position to find out after the fact and this and just to share with you this is 06:31.100 --> 06:36.020 what happens is there's always last minutes which creates frustration is any 06:36.020 --> 06:40.780 natural human response to be is when your child is having issues but you're not 06:40.780 --> 06:47.180 included my reaction is a natural reaction of frustration but if she's over 06:47.180 --> 06:52.700 there saying look he's doing this see he's frustrated he's angry he's upset 06:52.700 --> 06:57.140 well of course I am because I'm being excluded I'm watching my child go from 06:57.140 --> 07:04.540 straight A's and gifted and talented to struggling I'm it's September and we're 07:04.540 --> 07:11.340 getting a notice for a committee hearing in September you see do you see where 07:11.340 --> 07:19.380 my issues are yeah and the fact that she's claiming to be at a university how do 07:19.380 --> 07:24.540 you go how do you plan airline tickets fly to another state do a tour of a 07:24.540 --> 07:30.700 campus and your school doesn't know the father doesn't know nobody knows you see 07:30.700 --> 07:34.780 where these issues come in my kids being taken out of state and tour of 07:34.780 --> 07:38.540 campuses and I don't know she didn't coordinate with the school if she would 07:38.540 --> 07:41.460 coordinate with school coordinator I would have been given a heads up but I'm 07:41.460 --> 07:46.940 being excluded until after the fact and then I have to clean up the mess and I 07:46.940 --> 07:49.940 have to have these contentious conversations with you which puts me in a bad 07:49.940 --> 07:54.900 connotation with you but I'm expressing my frustration that I'm finding out 07:54.900 --> 08:02.980 after the fact all the time and it just coincidentally this particular 08:02.980 --> 08:08.060 university is 15 minutes from my son's house and my son's youngest child 08:08.060 --> 08:15.020 turned a year old that same weekend so did she go to a campus tour or did they 08:15.020 --> 08:20.380 just go to a birthday party to celebrate our grandchild's first birthday 08:20.380 --> 08:24.300 because all the tours at that campus I've called there's no official record 08:24.300 --> 08:28.460 there's an email communication but all their tours are done on Saturdays not 08:28.460 --> 08:35.780 Fridays so I'm being left in the dark I'm not given an opportunity to 08:35.780 --> 08:39.020 participate until after the fact and it puts me in a contentious situation with 08:39.020 --> 08:44.700 school administration and I'm gonna say like I've said in the years past if you 08:44.700 --> 08:49.740 guys just communicate and keep an open line let me sort out my conflict 08:49.740 --> 08:55.220 issues with my ex but if you guys run interference and you try to parent us by 08:55.220 --> 08:58.820 separating the children and having two different conversations you're in 08:58.820 --> 09:02.980 fact putting yourself in the middle and I'm asking you not to do that I'm 09:02.980 --> 09:07.180 asking you guys to follow the rules and just schedule a meeting use the 09:07.180 --> 09:13.460 official communication and it just if there's conflict let it come out let 09:13.460 --> 09:18.620 us deal with it because I haven't I have not had a meaningful conversation 09:18.620 --> 09:23.700 since April 20th with my child she stopped by for a couple of hours I was 09:23.700 --> 09:28.300 denied access I have not seen my kid and I drive up to Tyler Texas every 09:28.300 --> 09:34.140 other Friday I sit there I wait for an hour I call the police they come they 09:34.140 --> 09:40.060 take a police report we have 22 cases and 93 days of denied access to my 09:40.060 --> 09:47.420 child and this was my baby girl this was my daddy's girl and through parental 09:47.420 --> 09:53.580 alienation and isolation all this stuff I'm now the monster in her life and now 09:53.580 --> 09:57.060 what she's doing is doing the exact same techniques and using triangulation in 09:57.060 --> 10:01.860 the school system by creating these scenarios where I'm normally going to be 10:01.860 --> 10:08.020 frustrated but I have to compose myself to present this logically so that you 10:08.020 --> 10:13.940 don't just see an angry dad but I'm frustrated yeah I have the 10:13.940 --> 10:19.220 custody of all my kids and all of them let my 23-year-old make in 180 10:19.220 --> 10:25.260 thousand dollars all my kids do very well except for this one and this one's 10:25.260 --> 10:30.620 academics plummeted in mother's presence she's isolated from her siblings 10:30.620 --> 10:34.900 she's isolated from her dad she's isolated from every part of my family and 10:34.900 --> 10:38.900 she's been dropping down now she sees the therapist on a weekly basis and the 10:38.900 --> 10:44.300 therapist can tell if you read all the letters but because of her age and because 10:44.300 --> 10:52.860 of all this stuff there is no remedy so I'm asking you guys if you schedule 10:52.860 --> 10:58.380 meetings include a full distribution if anything goes out keep it official the 10:58.380 --> 11:04.180 paperwork fill it out in full because when you guys hand write a six total but 11:04.180 --> 11:09.940 I don't see unexcused or excused I can't do anything with that yeah so I'm 11:09.940 --> 11:14.140 asking you guys you have forms follow the forms to the letter that's all I'm 11:14.140 --> 11:19.260 asking for used to follow the rules follow the processes fill out the forms 11:19.260 --> 11:26.100 that what I saw was a an attendance committee letter that Amber signed I I don't 11:26.100 --> 11:29.780 know who signature was because I didn't recognize the signature but an 11:29.780 --> 11:34.260 administrator signed it the child didn't sign it there was a little scribbled 11:34.260 --> 11:38.020 note that the child participated by the phone but there's no listing of 11:38.020 --> 11:49.660 unexcused and excused absences so why that was a legitimate question why wasn't 11:49.660 --> 11:55.580 the form filled out I thought you might go in so yeah because we were still 11:55.580 --> 12:00.780 figuring out the college one so I didn't want to write it wrong okay well if I 12:00.780 --> 12:04.540 would like to sign it I'd like to be in docu sign I want the kid signature on it 12:04.540 --> 12:08.700 so that I know the kid was actually present and that the kid is aware of this 12:08.700 --> 12:14.340 because she is turning 18 on August 19th I swear everything is going to change 12:14.340 --> 12:21.300 because we shift from family court to chapter 4200 Texas law and I've already 12:21.300 --> 12:25.260 got the lawyers lined up I've got everybody lined up and we just moved to 12:25.260 --> 12:30.200 Smith County so I get to subpoena anybody and everybody within 150 mile 12:30.200 --> 12:33.360 radius that has been involved with my child for the last four years because 12:33.360 --> 12:38.380 the statute limitations for chapter 42 is four years so all this stuff that I 12:38.380 --> 12:42.900 have to deal with over the last four years is all gonna come to a head after my 12:42.900 --> 12:48.900 child terms 18 and now it's between me and my ex because slander and parental 12:48.900 --> 12:54.440 alienation and pushing me out of my child's life like why can't she be there 12:54.440 --> 13:02.520 at 730 school starts in 10 minutes I can't answer anything I know but you 13:02.520 --> 13:07.360 understand what I'm saying why highly suspicious here's yeah here's what I 13:07.360 --> 13:12.520 will say at the end I will include both at all times I assumed you knew and that 13:12.520 --> 13:17.560 was the miss that was the big mistake I was figuring out the other one to be 13:17.560 --> 13:22.880 updated which is reasonable I will include both okay how many I'm gonna express 13:22.880 --> 13:29.000 it again I've heard this conversation that I will be included every year every 13:29.000 --> 13:33.200 semester this is the first semester of the fourth year at your school I've 13:33.200 --> 13:38.320 heard this conversation and what happens is I look up and we're going to a 13:38.320 --> 13:42.320 currency or I get e-mails with a currency officer and I had no clue because I'm 13:42.320 --> 13:45.960 still I do I hear what you're saying okay thank you that's all I want to know 13:45.960 --> 13:50.600 is this is what we can this is what I can do and then you go miss green you did 13:50.600 --> 13:54.200 not include me on this one thing and you promised you would this is a problem 13:54.200 --> 13:59.760 so let's deal with that when I I'm just I'm sharing with you the source of my 13:59.760 --> 14:04.400 frustration for me this is four years this isn't just one meeting this is four 14:04.400 --> 14:09.680 years of continuous and what's happening is I'm being portrayed as I refuse to 14:09.680 --> 14:15.400 sign I refused to sign from very explicit reasons and I made it very clear and 14:15.400 --> 14:19.880 I have it in writing why I didn't sign it because I wanted one entry to be put 14:19.880 --> 14:24.360 on that form because the form was incomplete and I said I was not going to 14:24.360 --> 14:27.640 sign it just like I'm not going to sign this until you put the number of 14:27.640 --> 14:32.160 unexcusing excuse so I'm not going to sign a form that's incomplete because you 14:32.160 --> 14:35.720 guys can come in after the fact and make changes so I want a form that's 14:35.720 --> 14:41.280 complete before I sign in that's just my legal protection yes I heard that I 14:41.280 --> 14:45.120 did and I'll have a corrected now I heard that I heard the amount I know but 14:45.120 --> 14:48.480 your presumption coming into this was last year we do this and I refused to 14:48.480 --> 14:52.760 sign well I'm trying to share with you I didn't refuse to sign you guys 14:52.760 --> 14:57.800 refused to fill out the form completely and therefore I didn't sign it I was 14:57.800 --> 15:04.240 not the blocker yeah and and that is definitely how I could see how it sounded 15:04.240 --> 15:10.200 well I have it all in writing so I mean yeah I know okay I know yeah but yeah I 15:10.200 --> 15:13.520 would like everybody's signature on this I would like it completely filled out 15:13.520 --> 15:21.520 more than happy I absences are an ongoing issue with this child I can share with 15:21.520 --> 15:25.120 you that when we were married and living together and we're going to our 15:25.120 --> 15:31.560 separation this exact same thing happened to our oldest daughter and so it to me 15:31.560 --> 15:37.720 I've had five kids this is my youngest of five kids I've got 26 years of 15:37.720 --> 15:43.080 experience with this across five children so I'm coming from a position of 15:43.080 --> 15:48.680 knowledge expectations things like that and I'm just trying to convey if we all 15:48.680 --> 15:53.520 follow the processes to the letter the way the laws the way the forms the way 15:53.520 --> 15:57.600 everything was created is designed to protect children and we kind of muddy 15:57.600 --> 16:03.000 over things kids fall through the cracks that's all I'm asking just fill out 16:03.000 --> 16:08.600 the forms completely yeah I got to include and fill out the forms perfect and 16:08.600 --> 16:12.160 from now on if there are any meetings make sure that I'm on the distribution if 16:12.160 --> 16:17.440 I can't make it I will let you know and I will let you know my position if I 16:17.440 --> 16:22.960 want you to reschedule or you know and they and then you guys can make that 16:22.960 --> 16:26.440 decision based on actual knowledge and no assumptions I'm letting you know 16:26.440 --> 16:31.740 and if I get if it's a if it's an important enough meeting I literally have 16:31.740 --> 16:34.960 driven all the way to Tyler Texas to sit in the meeting and turn around and 16:34.960 --> 16:40.120 come back to Austin Texas I've always done that I've had times where you guys 16:40.120 --> 16:44.360 are short on volunteers at the dances and I drove all the way up there 16:44.360 --> 16:48.460 Shaplon to dance and turn around and drove all the way back my kids are 16:48.460 --> 16:54.760 important you come up on Fridays so is that not a possible regular like meeting 16:54.760 --> 16:59.560 opportunity time is it in the afternoon is it when schools so it used to be I 16:59.560 --> 17:04.120 scheduled everything and I tried to do doctor appointments but easily right now 17:04.120 --> 17:08.000 is somehow going through nutritional issues she went from the 20th percentile 17:08.000 --> 17:12.200 weight now she's down below the first that they can't actually put zero so she's 17:12.200 --> 17:16.000 in the first percentile of weight she's on four different medications nobody 17:16.000 --> 17:21.040 else in our family sick we're all I'm a little guy but all of our kids have been 17:21.040 --> 17:26.640 the 20th percentile since living in Tyler she's lost weight she's pasty she's 17:26.640 --> 17:31.280 seeing a therapist on a weekly basis her nutrition is shot I went and got a 17:31.280 --> 17:37.360 blood test her SHBGs are off the charts her I forgot what it's called 17:37.360 --> 17:41.840 cholesterol levels are like an old man I mean she is sickly as hell she's on 17:41.840 --> 17:44.840 four different medications and I used to schedule the doctor appointments on 17:44.840 --> 17:50.560 Fridays and I would pick her up Friday from school well once I was doing the 17:50.560 --> 17:54.880 doctor stuff and intervening and getting her off the medications and getting 17:54.880 --> 18:00.360 her healthier suddenly I refused and she started making the appointments on 18:00.360 --> 18:04.600 Thursdays or Wednesdays because it's more difficult for me to take off in the 18:04.600 --> 18:10.000 middle of the week and I was trying to make all of the appointments on Friday so 18:10.000 --> 18:17.400 my life has been constantly magically they can't meet on Fridays why well she 18:17.400 --> 18:23.260 can't deny the access if she knows I'm in town she can play stupid in a 18:23.260 --> 18:30.280 court of law which is what she's always done so yes Fridays I will come up I 18:30.280 --> 18:36.480 I will if you guys give me more than a 24-hour notice I will come in person that 18:36.480 --> 18:41.280 is how important this is to me and the reason why I scheduled for 730 on Friday 18:41.280 --> 18:48.400 was that was the last window of a two-week heads up and I wasn't able to see my 18:48.400 --> 18:52.120 daughter last Friday which happened to be my weekend but I gave him proper 18:52.120 --> 18:56.160 notice getting all this stuff I have to trade weekends my father got put in a 18:56.160 --> 19:00.880 memory care facility and I had to blow out and a car engine so I was stuck up 19:00.880 --> 19:06.760 in Oklahoma and I asked to trade weekends and she was very ammo she's like oh 19:06.760 --> 19:09.960 yeah that's great because it looks good in writing to say oh yeah we'll 19:09.960 --> 19:15.760 trade weekends and I said this coming weekend which happened to be for this 19:15.760 --> 19:20.080 meeting I was trying to coordinate everything so that she couldn't deny me 19:20.080 --> 19:27.440 access and then suddenly she can't make Friday so there's a lot of games going 19:27.440 --> 19:34.680 on that I have to deal with and I have to be very surgical about it but the 19:34.680 --> 19:40.280 good news for me is chapter 42 takes over and all this stuff can go in court 19:40.280 --> 19:44.400 of law and there's no recourse in family court it's civil court between two 19:44.400 --> 19:51.600 individuals so I'm asking you guys to just follow your processes a lot of 19:51.600 --> 19:56.400 forms will be good I hit you I love you guys I really enjoyed I don't like the 19:56.400 --> 19:59.600 fact that I haven't been able to volunteer the last year but it's been very 19:59.600 --> 20:04.520 uncomfortable up there for whatever reason but I used to come up there for all 20:04.520 --> 20:08.560 the dances first two years Mr. Chong Mr. Use class that came up there I brought 20:08.560 --> 20:12.440 my rocket stuff up there I'm an aerospace engineer I used to come up and 20:12.440 --> 20:15.600 volunteer to classes I'm still friends with a lot of students that have since 20:15.600 --> 20:19.400 graduated they will call me and ask me for advice because that was a type of 20:19.400 --> 20:24.600 impression I made on your students but now I can't even attend a meeting with 20:24.600 --> 20:31.880 my child present and it's heartbreaking I got five kids and this is the one 20:31.880 --> 20:36.320 child that none of the other siblings is like I talked to my son yesterday 20:36.320 --> 20:41.880 it was as time he tied to your sister it's been over a year she's being 20:41.880 --> 20:47.560 isolated from her family and we all know what that causes you guys you guys 20:47.560 --> 20:53.200 take training about how to recognize emotional abuse goes through that list I 20:53.200 --> 20:56.480 know it's on the t.a.gov website goes through that list there's like I think 20:56.480 --> 21:00.680 there's nine or 13 of them I think there's 13 and nine of amazingly exhibits 21:00.680 --> 21:12.720 she's exhibited every year something there but she has a rest of her life and I'm 21:12.720 --> 21:17.720 doing everything I can to protect her when she turned 18 again October 19th 21:17.720 --> 21:24.280 it cannot get her face on over yeah yeah and my fear is that as soon as she 21:24.280 --> 21:29.760 turns 18 Amber's gonna convince her to completely lock me out and as an adult 21:29.760 --> 21:37.760 I will be completely isolated from all academic decisions so I haven't 21:37.760 --> 21:40.800 heard that just say you know but I know that you know that I know the therapist 21:40.800 --> 21:45.360 notes the therapist calls me periodically to give me an update as he's made it 21:45.360 --> 21:55.160 very clear than when she turns 18 she wants nothing to do with me but last year 21:55.160 --> 21:59.000 she asked daddy to take a prom dressing in a shop around her during the 21:59.000 --> 22:04.760 prom I was the driver for the prom I took her shopping that's what it was like 22:04.760 --> 22:14.000 in March of just last year and by April she wants nothing to do with me so I 22:14.000 --> 22:18.960 appreciate your time get the form filled out do I mean I can come up there and 22:18.960 --> 22:23.960 sign it if you want to wet signature or you can use docu sign either way even 22:23.960 --> 22:28.160 if he sent me a word document I've got a file that I can use for my signature 22:28.160 --> 22:35.880 and I don't stop it's fine but that'll so it'll be it'll be docu sign okay I just 22:35.880 --> 22:40.640 wait right if it'll be easier just to just grab a sleigh though and then and then 22:40.640 --> 22:45.080 upload it so I'll figure it out on this end I appreciate you just keep me in the 22:45.080 --> 22:50.520 loop and I keep me in the loop as long as you can yeah no well okay I see what 22:50.520 --> 22:57.360 you're saying yep but I'll do those things I appreciate you absolutely bye